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I practice meditation every day. Sometimes multiple time through the day. It only takes a few minutes for a quick calming of the mind. I do, however, prefer 20-30 minutes in the morning. That seems the ideal time that works for me.

Meditation may not be what you think it is. The purpose is to calm the mind. Why does that matter? We can only focus on a limited number of things. Might it be important to focus on the things you want to focus on? Sounds simple enough but if you were to journal your daily activities you would discover that staying focussed is not an always an easy task.

Get your to do list out from yesterday. Did you get it all complete? Not making yourself right or wrong  ask yourself what got in the way?What pulled your attention away from your task? It can be like a cat chasing its tail at times from all the distraction around us. I remember cleaning my house one time when I had this cat and tail realization.

I started in the kitchen. Found something to put away in the bedroom. Started working in my bedroom. Found something to put away in my front room. Began working on a project in my front room. Found something to put away in the dining room. While in the dining room, found something to put away in the kitchen. After about an hour and feeling frustrated and incomplete the light bulb went off. I had chased my tail back to where I originally started from. I felt out of control of completing anything even though I did get some things done there was no feeling of closure and completeness that I wanted and needed in that moment.

We can only focus on 7 plus or minus 2 pieces of information at any time. Meditation can help clean the clutter. Find a comfortable place to relax with minimal to no distractions. I like to use a single candle in my front room. The time is important for me too. As the day goes on it seems to get more distracting in my house.

The focus is to NOT think about “stuff”. lol. You will be surprised how challenging this can be at first. Focus on deep breaths through the nose. Breathe in and out slowly through your nose. Maintain a comfortable and good posture. Feel the air come in and leave out your body. feel your chest rise and fall.

When the “stuff” shows up, and it will. Focus on breathing. Release the thought with a simple unspoken word. “kids, work, friend, car”, etc. and let it go. Release the thought, do not attach yourself to the thought. Let it flow by you like water in a stream. Let it go. Return to focus on your breathing.

I have found this sort of self care is something I can’t wait to do. It’s calming. It sharpens my senses, alertness and strengthens overtime.

Additional meditation resources:  http://www.learningmeditation.com/

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I am a passenger elevator and escalators mechanic. The other day as I was on the floor at the hospital changing door gibs, it dawned on me… this has to be the filthiest place on the planet as far as germs are concerned. Not the floors of the hospital, which they keep clean. But the door tracks that the elevator doors slide in. Literally the crap of the world and other bodily fluids, fall and drain in the elevator door tracks.

I’m laying on the floor, working hard, minding my own business and pondering the billions of germs and viruses I hold in my hand. All of the sudden I am disturbingly interrupted by 3 nurses who run up to me with a code red. Are you OK? They were pretty excited. I soon realized that they thought I had fallen over and needed help. “No, thank you. I’m OK. Thanks.”

Back to the door gibs… has to be the filthiest place on the planet. As I am removing the screws to the nylon gib, there is this thick goo draining out of them. They are pretty dirty with dust and debris. I become fascinated with; how is it that I almost never get sick? I handle this goo for a living. I of course wash my hands but almost never use hand sanitizer. Other than a brief tickle in my throat now and then, I have been exceptionally healthy for over 6 years.

The last time I was at the doctor for a routine check up I think I got a glimpse into the answer about health. I always enjoy the visit. It’s fun to catch up and share whats going on with the Doc. I share with her my diet, my exercise, what’s going on with my children. Just as she was about to leave she looked up and said “I was going to ask you if you wanted a flu shot but I’m guessing you don’t need one.” smiled, and then she left the room.

After I had gotten a chance to recover from the latex glove trauma, her statement started stirring in my mind. How did she know that I would not need a flu shot? I guess the obvious answer is the infrequent trips to come visit her. But she didn’t seem shocked or curious. Is there more to it? Are we pre-disposed to being sick? Is it our environment? Is it our nutrition? Is it our self care? Is it the germs or an immune system that is not strong enough to be abundant? I’m not sure but I can’t wait to see her again and ask her. Here is to your health! ( :

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Did you know that frogs only move forward? They can’t moonwalk or hop backwards. Where do you think lucky rabbits feet come from?

…Rabbits that stop hopping. When faced with challenges do not hope for change and wait for it.

Be the change, take action, hop on…hop forward… hop for change and a new door will open that you previously did not see. Keep on hopping!

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